I just don't know enough about the library and why they have chosen that pin. I think it has to do with the frequency that the IR LED needs to send a signal but im just guessing.

I updated my schematic to use a mosfet.. does this look better?

awesome thanks so much for that advice ill look into doing that.

Yes I did search google for an hour before i asked this. But i'm not even sure how to ask or what to search for so... Ok I'm pretty new to hardware programming and I am not sure how to do this. I'm not able to flash my chip unless i unplug the IR LED from the the RXD (34) pin of the ESP32. This no b...